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The Secret Ingredients To Being a Successful Muslimah

Success is something I have been thinking about a great deal lately. One of the first questions that come to mind is how we define success? One of the inner-most desires we can have as human beings is to be successful at something. Whether it’s our role as a student or in our profession or even as a mother.
As Muslims, we can all too often get dragged into this type of worldly measure of success which measures you by material achievements- but in all honesty, how many of those people chasing after solely worldly goods are truly happy? I’m not suggesting we shouldn’t have all the above as Muslims. Indeed we should, but our measure of success should be linked to something lasting, more rewarding, more satisfying than reaching the status quo.
Successful indeed are the believers (Surah Al-Muminun)
1. Have sincere intentions:
Success begins on the sincerity of our intentions. We should seek to have a lasting benefit from whatever we have set our minds to achieve, whether it is studying at university, getting a career or starting a family. Our success in what we intend to do will depend on how sincere we are in our efforts to please Allah.
2. Invest time wisely:
One of the top traits of successful leaders as research as shown is that they manage their time effectively. Quit wasting time on things that do not bring you benefit and watch your life become full of blessings.
3 Develop yourself:
We have access to knowledge, courses, books and so much more, so anyone can develop their knowledge and grow in an area of interest. As Muslims, it is essential we improve our knowledge of the religion and excel at what we do so that we can be an example and role model.
4. Keep learning:
One of the striking features I have found in successful people is their humility and their continued pursuit of learning, not only in the field they are currently in but also in general.
5. Make du’a:
The final but one of the most powerful ingredients to success is to make dua and lots of it. Indeed my success only comes from Allah is a beautiful dua to ponder over often as it reminds me that we can never become too arrogant in life about our achievements. If it wasn’t for our creator, we would not be able to exist in the first place let alone succeed at what we set out to do.
Remember to always remain humble in your achievements and constantly thank Allah for helping you.
After all, we won’t know if we’ve really succeeded until we reach the gates of Jannah. May Allah (SWT) make us amongst those who are the successful in this life and the hereafter.

Culled from Sisters Magazine issue 53.

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Don’t Judge Me!!!!!

 

I don’t care what you say about me! You are judgemental! Holier than thou! This statements are some of the things we all say, when we feel judged

Never let others’ judgment of you discourage you. Ignore what the people say about you, and keep doing what you believe in.” we sometimes hear.

When does caring what other people think about us becomes important, and unimportant? When should we listen to other people’s judgement of us?

How do we strike a balance?

We strike a balance by knowing that while we can’t listen and care about everyone’s opinion about us, we however have to listen when a specific opinion is held by many and that of a believer.

The famous hadith of the Prophet, sallallaahu’alayhi wa sallam, in which he taught that the believer is the mirror of the believer. If we can accept our reflections in the mirror as true, we also should accept and listen to the believers. This helps us learn and grow to become better Muslims.

Sometimes when going through social media, I see Muslims going hard on someone who left a comment advising the person who posted on their social media page and it just makes me cringe, and I think to myself the adviser was probably sincere in giving a heartfelt naseeha (advice). Sometimes we feel guilty because we know we are wrong and try to justify our actions by telling the adviser to not judge us, it’s part of a defence mechanism to make ourselves feel better, but at what point do we tell ourselves the truth and see the corrections for what it really is, except the person correcting us is doing so in a totally wrong manner and the advice is lost because it was relayed wrongly that is different. It’s important we do not always have our guards up and lose out on much beneficial advice from people who love us or total strangers who are believers and owe us sincere naseeha.

The Prophet (SAW) said, (three times), “The Religion is naseeha (sincerity and sincere advice).” We said, “To whom?” He said, “To Allaah, His Book, His Messenger, and to the leaders of the Muslims and the general people.”  [Saheeh Muslim No.55] This hadith tells us to give good admonition, not act deceitfully, to hide faults, order people to good and forbid from evil with gentleness, sincerity and compassion, to encourage people to take on good character. The Muslim who is correcting us, owe it to us.

 

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