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Self-Love and the Muslimah Part 2

Few years back, I read a tweet about how it takes real confidence to go anywhere without makeup, I totally believe I am a very confident lady, but I would hardly go out without makeup. So I decided to challenge myself to 3 months of no makeup, not even powder. Is my level of self-esteem all up in my head if I hardly go out without make-up, I began to wonder?
This might seem easy right? But I absolutely loved make-up (I wore makeup all the time. Light or medium makeup, I would hardly go out without having makeup on), I still love makeup, but I have come to learn it should be worn within the confines of the house after reading an article on the Islamic perspective of makeup Alhamdullilah .
As at that time when people ask if I was making up to look more attractive to men, I would reply saying absolutely not! I makeup because I like it and love how I could give myself different looks. This might seem really simple but our level of self-esteem, self-love, and confidence shows from how we dress, interact with people, see others, view ourselves etc.
At first it wasn’t easy, I had no problem going without makeup to work, market etc. but it was difficult attending social gatherings (the horror of attending a wedding with your friends all made up and you looking like a plain Jane) that was my thought process then, I was wrong, that’s not how a Muslimah should think, however that was part of my struggles. At the end of the third month, my confidence grew, I was literally over makeup, it was like purging it out of my system and I learnt to accept myself natural and all.
Level of self-love also manifest itself in how much we need other people’s validation. I.e. My friends will laugh at me, or call me a very serious person, if I start to use the hijab. What will people say! Some think it’s ugly etc. If you love yourself, you wouldn’t bother so much about getting other peoples validation, giving into peer pressure, committing sins just to feel accepted and loved, feeling intimidated, worthless, ugly, because you know it doesn’t matter, and would learn to stay off knowing fully well what matters the most is pleasing Allah (SWT).
Having confidence to say no and enough when being abused or bullied.
Lack of self-love could lead to low self-esteem and totally drive the Muslim over the edge and into the fire of hell.

Self-love is different from narcissism
Narcissism is the pursuit of gratification from vanity or egotistic admiration of one’s own attributes.
Narcissistic individuals generally believe that the world revolves around them. This condition is characterized by a lack of ability to empathize with others and a desire to keep the focus on themselves at all times. Involves arrogant behavior, a lack of empathy for other people, and a need for admiration-all of which must be consistently evident at work and in relationships. People who are narcissistic are frequently described as cocky, self-centered, manipulative, demanding, and may be convinced that they deserve special treatment. Narcissism involves cockiness, manipulativeness, selfishness, power motives, and vanity.
Narcissists tend to have high self-esteem. However, narcissism is not the same thing as self-esteem; people who have high self-esteem are often humble, whereas narcissists rarely are. It was once thought that narcissists have high self-esteem on the surface, but deep down they are insecure. However, the latest evidence indicates that narcissists are actually secure or grandiose at both levels. Onlookers may infer that insecurity is there because narcissists tend to be defensive when their self-esteem is threatened (e.g., being ridiculed); narcissists can be aggressive.
Love yourself but be conscious of being a narcissist, remember virtue is selfless.
Have confidence but be weary of arrogance

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DIY: Indulgence Body Scrub

DIY: Indulgence body scrub

Skin in need of a little love? Try a body scrub.
The skin is the largest body organ, and it can absolve about 60% of what you apply on it. The outer layer of the skin is covered in dead skin cells. Body scrubs buffs and polishes the skin, gently removes dead skin cells, cleans the pores of dirt and oil thereby unclogging pores and expose your skin’s underlying healthier layers.
Besides feeling wonderful, body scrubs have several rejuvenating benefits for the skin. It helps reduce cellulites, clears pimples/acne, reduces scars/stretch marks/hyper pigmentation, give gorgeous glow, tones, soften, smoothens and maintains healthy skin.
DIY body scrubs work as well or even more than store bought scrubs, which sometimes have some foreign addictive.

Body scrub has 3 primary ingredients:
1. The Exfoliant: Basically the “scrub” in the body scrub that helps buffs and polishes the skin. Sugar and salt are the most common, others include oatmeal, coffee grounds etc.
Salt: Great for relaxing muscles and detoxifying. Sea salt, Epsom and table salt are all great for the skin.
Sugar: Slightly gentler on the skin than salt. You can use either brown or white sugar, but brown is preferable.
Coffee grounds: The caffeine have some benefits for your skin. Caffeine is a vasoconstrictor, meaning that it causes blood vessels to constrict, so it can temporarily reduce varicose veins and cellulite. Intriguingly, experiments have shown that caffeine applied to the skin of mice makes them less likely to get skin cancer… but we don’t know yet whether this works for humans.
Oatmeal is the gentlest of the exfoliants. It is an emollient, meaning that it softens and hydrates your skin. People have used it for decades as an effective home remedy for dry, itchy skin.
2. Carrier Oil: Also called a base oil, the oil in a homemade body scrub holds the mixture together, and moisturises your skin. I.e. coconut oil, sweet almond oil, argan oil, grape seed oil and my favourite rosehip seed oil.
3. Essential oil: Essential oils are oils that carry the essence of the plant, great for the skin and can also be used as a fragrant.

Others include the addictive like, i.e. cocoa powder, milk, honey, lemon juice, herbs, green tea, fruits (cucumber, pawpaw, pineapple etc.) powders like turmeric, gram, sandalwood and cinnamon etc.
Coffee sugar scrub:
• ¼ cup carrier oil
• ½ cup sugar
• 1/3 cup fresh coffee grounds
• Few drops of essential oils

In a medium size bowl, combine the carrier oil, sugar, coffee grounds, and essential oil mix well.
Can be stored in air tight container i.e. jar

Chocolate indulgence body scrub:

• ¼ Cup Carrier Oil
• ½ Cup Brown Sugar
• ¼ Cup Cocoa Powder
• Few drops of essential oils

In a medium size bowl, combine the carrier oil, sugar, cocoa powder, and essential oil mix well.
Can be stored in air tight container i.e. jar

Using the body scrub primary ingredients guide, you can whip up different body scrubs based on ingredients you can easily find.

DIY: Protein conditioner

Hello, Salam Alaykum

What are protein conditioners?

Protein conditioners are hair conditioners that strengthen and reconstruct the hair structure with hydrolyzed proteins, as well as conditioning and sealing ingredients. You should look for products that explicitly say protein, reconstructor, or strengthener.

Benefits of protein conditioner:
In my quest for a healthy long hair, i did a lot of research on DIYs [Do it yourself]hair treatment and protein treatment is one of the most important treatments for hair.
Hair is comprised of 70% keratin protein. It’s stored in the innermost layer of the hair. Protein is responsible for hair’s strength and structure.
A protein-based conditioner can strengthen damaged hair and replenish protein lost through regular maintenance such as shampooing and styling.
A proper moisture protein balance is important for the overall quality of your hair. One without the other leads to breakage. Conditioning with protein deep conditioner biweekly or monthly can help you maintain balance.

Ingredients:
1 egg
3 tablespoon mayonnaise
1 tablespoon carrier oil i.e coconut, olive, castor, grapeseed e.t.c
1 tablespoon honey
Few drops of your favourite essential oil [My favourites are lavender and mint]

How to:
Whisk egg including the yolk in a bowl
Add mayonnaise, oil, honey and essential oil
Mix together
Apply on hair and leave for 30 minutes
Rinse with cold water
Shampoo and apply a leave in conditioner.

Voila, pretty easy right.

Adopting A Healthy Eating Lifestyle.

Living a healthy lifestyle comprises of a whole lot this includes diet, exercise, self-medication etc. I will be focusing on just the eating aspect of it. HEALTH (a complete state of physical, mental and social well-being, and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity, according to the WHO).
Health is one of the greatest favour Allah has bestowed on us. Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) mounted the pulpit, then wept and said, “Ask Allah (swt) for forgiveness and health, for after being granted certainty, one is given nothing better than health.” Related in Tirmidhi
My health consciousness started while I was in the university, at first my friends didn’t understand why I decided to stop taking carbonated drinks except for malt drinks as part of reducing my sugar intake, they just assumed I had started my iye yi (over sabi sabi) again.
I remember when my mum always complained about Fanta/Coke been too sugary and insisted on diluting it with water, I always told her it wasn’t too sugary, she was probably just getting old and doesn’t like sweet things. Fast forward to some months later after staying off, I was very thirsty and had to take a cold bottle of Fanta, it was too sugary I had to ask why Fanta had increased its sugar content, of course Fanta didn’t increase its sugar content my taste buds adjusted.
Having a healthy eating lifestyle is more important than “dieting”, sometimes when people diet they find it hard to stick to it, but having a healthy eating lifestyle means you are changing your eating habit completely.

Healthy Eating Tips:
 Swap the unhealthy food with healthy food: swap sugar with honey or date (honey should be taken in moderation, although honey is better, it still contains calories), Coke with freshly squeezed fruit juice or zobo etc.
 Reduce oil intake: Fry with little oil, reduce fried food intake. Boil, steam and grill.
 Eat right, moderately, and in the right proportion: “A man does not fill any vessel worse than his stomach. It is sufficient for the son of Adam to eat enough to keep him alive. But if he must do that, then one-third for his food, one-third for his drink and one-third for his air.”. Related in Tirmidhi
 Reduce your salt and sugar intake: you don’t need that soft drink. The Coke, Fanta, Pepsi etc. are of no healthy use whatsoever, except you’re hypoglycaemic (low blood sugar) and in an urgent need of glucose (sugar). A nice bottle of delicious water, or green tea or zobo drink will do, and the body appreciates it more.
 Don’t turn your stomach into a dustbin, by just dumping all sort of stuffs in it, really don’t!
 Eat of the good things which We have provided for you.” (Quran 2:172) “Eat of what is lawful and wholesome on the earth.” (Quran 2:168)
 You don’t have to eat only cooked food, you can add some salad to that mountain of rice, for some added benefits.
And it is He Who produces gardens trellised and untrellised, and date palms, and crops of different shape and taste (its fruits and its seeds) and olives, and pomegranates, similar (in kind) and different (in taste). Eat of their fruit when they ripen…” (Quran 6:141)

I know it’s not easy, but your body will thank you for it, it’s easier to fast and perform tahajud when healthy. May Allah make it easy for us all, Amin.

Basic Natural Hair Care Regimen

Finally, you’ve decided to turn natural, Congratulations!!! Now what??? When you are new or transitioning into natural, you might not be sure what regimen to follow or just might be overwhelmed with too much information.

I have learnt to take care of my hair overtime, tailoring my hair care regimen to suit my busy life and hair goals.

My hair care regimen

Daily:

 Moisturize and seal (I spray my hair with a mixture of water, aloe vera and oils)

 Eat healthy

 Massage scalp

 Sleep on a satin pillowcase, or use a satin bonnet

Weekly:

 Co-wash

Bi-weekly:

 Pre-poo before conditioning

 Shampoo with a sulphate free shampoo

 Deep condition after shampooing

Monthly:

 Protein treatment

 Hot oil treatment

 Clarify

 Rinse i.e ACV rinse, tea rinse, hibiscus (Zobo) rinse

Every 2 months:

 Henna treatment

 Clay treatment

Alternate the monthly and every 2 month treatment for a start until you are able to try 2 or more of the treatments and don’t forget to wear protective hair styles.

Natural Hair Journey.

Salam Alaykum ukthys

Going back natural is the best hair care decision I have ever made, staying off the creamy crack was a healthy hair decision I am happy I made.

I sincerely thought I was going bald, after trying different hair care products, my front and middle hair just refused to grow back, then my hair line started receding, like losing my middle and front hair wasn’t enough, whew!!!

I have heard/read arguments about relaxer being haram or allowed, and always held the view it’s not haram. I attended a sisters program and the speaker said, what if you are bald? What will you do? She was right, we were arguing because Allah has given us hair, if we were bald, will we argue about using wigs.

It was like that was what I needed to convince myself to turn natural. It wasn’t easy, I stopped relaxing for some months in the year 2010, and hair was looking great then I decided to use the creamy crack again (It’s an addiction) and that lead me straight back to square one. All the progress made gone.

I decided I was going to grow my natural hair again in the year 2012 and this time was determined not to relax it, I started doing research on natural hair care, fast forward 3 years, hair is growing long and I have turned my knowledge about caring for natural hair into a business. I started the Sissie Natural range of products and Alhamdullilah, business is great.

Thinking of turning natural? No worries, will post tips, tricks and DIY to care for your hair Insha Allah.

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